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Among them: Lack of role models and invalidation - most people who self-injure were chronically invalidated in some way as children (many self-injurers report abuse, but almost all report chronic invalidation). When I told one of the volunteers, a mother who had been helping me there, she said, "Maybe it's not so bad..."I remembered later that she had also said this about my visa situation, "Maybe it's not so complicated." I felt so hurt by her lack of understanding that I had to bite my tongue not to say "Did you hear one word I said?!
Self-injury is probably the result of many different factors. One day I was feeling very discouraged and depressed because a project I had started to help orphans in Bulgaria had been cancelled.Rejecting feelings is rejecting reality; it is to fight nature and may be called a crime against nature, "psychological murder", or "soul murder." Considering that trying to fight feelings, rather than accept them, is trying to fight all of nature, you can see why it is so frustrating, draining and futile. Let's look at the facts." Businesses, for example, and "professionals" are traditionally out of balance towards logic at the expense of emotions. I didnt think I was telling them what they were feeling was wrong, I thought I was passing on what I had learned.A good guideline is: People with high IQ and low EQ tend to use logic to address emotional issues. This tends to alienate people and diminish their potential. Things such as: When you find yourself thinking a negative thought Ill never Im not No one turn it around and say the opposite I will I am One or many . Or how about not dwelling on the things you cant change, focus on those things in your control? Sad, Confused, Scared Mom I met someone once who said her boyfriend was jealous. She said she tells him he has no reason to be jealous!On the other hand, going on the offensive often escalates the conflict or puts us in the position of trying to change another person. So she probably just tried to tell them not to feel how they were feeling.One sign of both high self-esteem and high EQ is the absence of either of these defensive responses. Parents, like teachers and many others, get accustomed to telling people what to do and having them do it.
Actually, all emotions do have a basis in reality, and feelings are facts, fleeting though they may be. (being difficult; being dramatic, in a bad mood, tired, etc) It's nothing to get upset over. Sometimes the only way to get past a bad thing is to forget it and move on. Apparently Ive been going at it all wrong and instead of helping my children Ive been invalidating their feelings to the point that one is cutting and suicidal and the other cant wait to get as far away from me as possible. Ive seen the heartbreaking pics all over tumblr and the internet of kids with blades and bleeding legs and arms and I wonder if theres a link to social media and cutting? I asked if he was able to say directly that he is jealous. Later this same person said she felt disrespected when he walks in front of her.