A Plague of Frogs A boomer first date can be an unnerving experience and a double-edged sword.
Sure, there's a lot of excitement and some sweet fantasies attached to meeting someone new because there's always the chance they might have partner potential.
A Door Isn't A Sexual Barrier A woman wrote me recently about a first date with a guy who became a frog, instantly.
He picked her up at her home and when they got to his car, he said, "Since you're equal now, you can open your own door." Ouch! I consider opening doors for a woman, whether a car, a restaurant, or any door for that matter, to be a gentlemanly, gracious thing to do, which has nothing to do with equal, and everything to do with being courteous and respectful.
Your prior dating experiences suggest you're going to have to do a lot more frog smacking before you meet someone special, but even that doesn't guaranty success.
Most boomers remember growing up in a time when being polite and respectful was considered normal.
I've had a few dates from hell, but I didn't resort to frog-like behavior, although I admit it wasn't always easy to keep my cool.
Tight T-Shirts and Big Bellies The number of women that have commented about first dates that appeared at their door wearing old shorts, T-shirts that barely covered their bellies, and flip flops, are too numerous to ignore, so at least some amount of dialogue on this topic seems appropriate.
"This is who I am, take it or leave it," is neither an effective nor productive first date strategy. Everyone needs to make a concerted effort to look attractive on a first date, and there are no excuses for looking as if you just came off the beach.