Dating heavy petting
2 For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. And the answer is not an easy one to give because necking definitions vary with the area in which one lives. THERE IS NO WAY FOR YOU TO HOOK ME UP INTO ANYTHING. But, generally speaking, when a boy talks about necking he means casual kissing and embracing. In the general context of Scripture, such intimate acts outside of marriage are wrong because it can excite both partners so that it breaks down their defenses.Scripture does not need to say, ‘thou shalt not kiss or engage in heavy petting unless married’ in order for it to be contrary to God’s will and wisdom. It describes what you’re doing without being too literal. BRB, stealing “active stimulation” to use as my phrase from now on.
However, within the framework of even this sketchy series of definitions, there is a great deal of variation possible. We know that Kelly Clarkson does not do it, oh no, SO DON’T EVEN ASK HER TO.
The biblical and godly response for those who care about the other person and about God’s will and desire to please Him is to flee temptation. Compare the following: Contrary to the claims of our president about sex, kissing and heavy petting is sexual and a part of the sexual relationship of intimacy called foreplay.
In discussing the beauty of sexual intimacy and how it can be a magnet that protects us from adultery, the writer of Proverbs had the following to say …
God says, “flee temptation,” but this is flirting with temptation.
And Christ tells us that if a man even looks on a woman with a view to fornication, it is the same as committing the act.
It uses others for selfish and exploitative purposes, and not only can it get out of hand, but can become explosive.