Dating convo topics
What if I wore a curry-scented deodorant to our first date, would that turn you on? I agree that guys firing questions at me (especially boring ones) without letting me speak and develop and get their take is annoying and draining. bars are also cool and I don’t mind splitting the bill, but that’s a whole other debate I guess. I actually like opening with “tell me about yourself,” because it feels natural, but before I leave the floor open to answer, I add in a question like one of the ones in the list to clarify where I'd like to start hearing about my date.
"Then you work the personality questions into the humor. "Like I said above, it’s not about firing these at her in an interview situation. The point with ANY question that one asks, is not the initial answer, but the follow-up.
And to be fair, my male friends say women are just as bad, if not worse, and I don’t doubt that for a second.
I didn’t know it was possible for people to be so horrendous at conversation.Of course, when the girl is extroverted and does most of the talking (ideal scenario, people feel the date went better when they do the talking) or the chemistry is crazy, yeah the conversation takes very little effort. Are there other types of people you don't like? If your date has any sort of anxiety she might feel uncomfortable eating food in front of you on a first date. And these help if you’re struggling for what else to talk about. Like, I have loads and loads of things I could do for fun and I could never tell you them all.Hell, these are good even for a pre-date online scenario too. For some reason, I can't change the numbered list to show the right number for each question... " Or "Oh so that smell doesn't really bother you that much? It's a very considerable time investment for her. You spend the whole time dealing with the awkwardness of eating and talking simultaneously. “What is the most exciting/fun thing you’ve done this week? It would make her think and not just give a recited answer about going to the gym and traveling. Try some of these out and see if it makes the date more exciting. But I have a standard go-to answer that I give every time, because I’m used to people asking that as their first question... But doesn’t make me think he’s especially cool/intelligent/interesting/exciting.Let's make the world a better place for first dates. Thanks again :)Some of these should not be conversation starters unless you want to make the person feel like they are at a job interview, or are talking to a serial killer. I mention afterwards that you need to work up to some of them.These are also nice though to give us people without the gift of fine conversation some ideas of what good questions are, so we can build off them. They are able to start a conversation, but aren’t the first thing you talk about when you meet. Back when I did online dating, if I was bored and browsing profiles, I would just message the dumbest questions I could think of to attractive women.
I never realized how bad people are at conversation until I started using dating apps.