Dating a woman with children dating sider test
No matter what the scenario, I think the man has to be brought on board as a friend to the child first.
Even if I was ready to be a father, meeting a child would be a very difficult experience if I was expected to assume a certain role or take another man’s place. But perhaps after an understood serious relationship has formed, a friendship with your child would seem much less threatening.
When dating someone with children, even grown ones, face the fact that he has parental commitments, which may sometimes interfere with your plans and his availability.
Dating a man with grown children will also require you to interact with the kids from time to time.
Don't let these issues scare you off if you are really into your man, but do remain realistic.
Ask your new man about his relationship with his ex. You may learn that he was divorced 15 years ago and his ex lives across the country, that he is a widower or that he sees his ex on a consistent basis because they have a strong co-parenting relationship.
Is there still a social stigma surrounding divorce that there once was?
While I’m sure the kid is a ray of sunshine, dating someone with a child when you aren’t ready to be a parent is like jumping into a ring of fire and hoping you’ll escape without getting burnt. But let’s consider that you, a single mother, find a man interested in dating you who isn’t violently opposed to parenthood.
Are there certain expectations you have for this potential suitor?
Think about how the relationship your man has with his kids and his ex impacts your relationship with him.
The circumstances may allow the two of you a lot of alone time to date and travel, or he may be constantly bogged down with parental duties and ex-wife encounters.
Since the children are grown, you can have an adult relationship with them and talk about subjects you might have in common.